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Is Optimism The Elusive Utopia ? How To Be More Optimistic ?
“When it rains look for the rainbow, when it’s dark look for the stars”.
Wondered How To Be More Optimistic? How beautiful would our lives be if we had more people living this quote? As a school counsellor, this quote has often been my “beacon or a guide post”, whenever I need to regain strength and courage to maintain the “glass is half full” view. With a view like so, life has rewarded me in several unexpected ways.
However when I see our young champs feel disturbed about celebrating one’s birthday at home instead of a premium hotel or vacationing at granny’s place and not on a yacht!; my urge to show them the rainbows and stars soars high. What were once inconsequential have become intolerable issues of today. Yesterday’s simplicity is replaced with today’s sophistication, thus making it difficult for today’s generation to face dejections.
The need for optimism:In keeping with all of the above, JBCN International School Oshiwara recognized the need to increase the “optimism quotient” in the young learners and budding survivors of tomorrow. Therefore following a suggestion by one of our learners we decided to have dedicated weekly sessions called “The Optimism Period” to teach our students, How To Be More Optimistic. At JBCN International School Oshiwara we believe positivity can lead to happiness, mindfulness and much more, in all our learners. We do not approach this session as a mere solution to any current problem but rather aim to equip our learners with lifelong resilience and qualities for becoming better human beings.
Optimism helps you rally:An ability to view life (either positively or negatively) is learnt at a very young age. There is no surprise that people who have a positive view are less likely to get depressed, get fewer illnesses, and live longer. During difficult times, a conviction that things will work out in the end is an anchor to resilience. As alluring as the term “optimism” may sound, it is truly an art to imbibe it in the face of a rammy.
It is not through grand heroic actions, it is in fact the small acts and behaviours when multiplied on a day-to-day basis that contribute to the bigger picture. We have therefore mapped this important life skill as a part of our teaching curriculum. Students across all grades will start learning to develop skills on How To Be More Optimistic, to believe that adversities can be defeated. The survival instinct to pull oneself together and keep going will be rooted from formative years. Our learners will not only be provided channels to express their worries and fears but also taught techniques to alleviate the same.
In this mission to eradicate the helplessness and despair that our children feel when faced with trivial issues, we urge our parent fraternity to partner with us in the journey.
We request you to imbibe the below mentioned suggestions into your day to day outlook.
Help Your Child Be More Optimistic:
Pay close attention to how your child thinks about life events:
- When something bad happens, does he/she think that the misfortune is permanent, does he/she have a “why does this always happen to me?” kind of a perception. Such pessimism needs to be confronted for its rationality
Teach lessons of Optimism:
- Help him/her choose to perceive setbacks as temporary, impersonal, and within his/her power to fix.
- Although at times a setback could be personal, i.e. he/she may have brought the failure onto themselves. Such an instance still doesn’t define the person they are, it only explains the choice made by him/her.
- For example a child may have failed the test due to unpreparedness but that doesn’t necessarily prove that he/she always did and always will fail tests.
How To Be More Optimistic: (The Process)
|Instead of…||Can think…|
|“Things are always against me”||“There are actions I can take to change the situation”|
|“Everything always goes wrong”||“There are specific reasons something happened”|
|“The world is just out to get me”||“Some factors lead to a cause and effect relationship. At times I can control those factors but at times I can’t, which may not be my fault”|
- If you often find yourself saying things like, “It is impossible to expect a free parking space in this mall”, “Your scores at school can never get better”…..then may God save us and our children!
- It is important to note that as a parent if you fail to “model” optimism, all of the above learning will be futile.
- If we want optimism to grow and flourish in our children, we need to plant it and nurture it within ourselves first.
A Story of Belief:Viktor Emil Frankl, a Holocaust survivor, while being in the Nazi camp, saw his loved ones die and suffer; he was stripped and exposed to worst physical tortures on him. Despite this, at his lowest point of suffering, Victor would imagine a time in future, wherein he is in a class, and teaching students on how to survive and search for meaning. His philosophy stated that, “Not pleasure, nor power, “striving for meaning” is what keeps us alive!”
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Posted on: Friday,2017,Sep,Fri
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